It's been quite a while since I last posted for Wedding Wednesday! Dylan and I have been engaged for almost a year now, and our weddings plans have been constantly evolving and changing, along the way. Today I wanted to take the time to catch you guys up on our current wedding plans, and let you in on some of the frustrations that come with wedding planning!
I've never wanted a huge, extravagant wedding. Originally, our wedding plans consisted around a small outdoor cottage wedding for about 90 people. Turns out, even a smaller wedding will take a ton of planning. Our wedding photographer bailed on us expectantly a few months ago, and we were having trouble connecting with caterers and tent rental companies. There were so many small details to take care of - Did we want a dj or a band? What type of food did we want? What's our backup plan for a rainy day? Where is everyone going to sleep? (small town, closest hotel is over a half our away, with very few rooms). How are we going to tackle lighting once the sun sets? Do we need backup generators? Portable washrooms? And don't even get me started on all of the minuscule details that come with decorations! Turns out, I don't enjoy wedding planning at all. Neither does Dylan. Now, you might say that this is when a wedding planner would come in handy. Well, it's not just that we don't enjoy wedding planning, it's that we really don't care about all of these details. We want a marriage, not a wedding. This isn't at all to say that I'm judging anyone that chooses to have a big, fancy wedding, but it's just not for us.
We definitely considered eloping, and even looked into our options for an elopement in Prague before we left on our trip. I think every engaged couple will have at least a moment where they consider just eloping. But we do want Dylan's immediate family to be with us when we take this official step to committing our lives together. So now we've decided to have a very small, simple ceremony here in Ottawa. I still want to be able to wear my beautiful dress, say my vows, and be surrounded by the most important people in my life. We're also planning to have a celebration with friends and extended family the following day, but it will be a very relaxed vibe. I know that some people will be hurt that they aren't invited to the actual ceremony. Our intention isn't to hurt or exclude anyone, but at the end of the day we just have to do what's right for us. When you're planning a wedding, people are going to be very open about what they want your wedding to be. Just try to stay true to who you are as a couple, Now that we have this plan in my, I can honestly say that I'm completely stress free about our wedding!
If you're planning a wedding right now and feeling overwhelmed and stressed, just know that you don't have to stick to the traditional Western wedding script! Don't let wedding planning stress you out too much, and try to remember what's really important about the big day.
Did wedding planning stress you out? How did you handle the stress?